11/11/98  By the Dashboard Lights

            by Dave Friedli

 

 

Some Gave All

 

            As I travel across Nebraska, I am impressed by the ways Nebraska

communities remember those who have served the cause of claiming

peace and keeping peace.

            In Sidney, the centerpiece (center-peace?) of the city park is a huge

memorial to all residents who have served in any conflict.

            Looming over white granite tablets engraved with hundreds of names

is a flag-pole made from an Interstate exit pole which was damaged

during erection and donated to the city for their memorial.  At the

top of the pole is a battle-ship sized flag.

            Recently, I stood at the base of that pole at night, reading names

and reflecting on the peace-earners/givers/keepers remembered there.

The only sound was the snapping of the huge flag as a steady breeze

stretched it to full glory, relaxed and then extended it again, not

unlike the sail of a Windjammer ship.

            A billboard in Wahoo honors those who served in conflict.

            Memorial Park in the center of Omaha is reminiscent of the memorials

which line The Mall in Washington, DC.

            It was during my first visit to the nation's capital that I began to

feel the loss of not paying as close attention to my history lessons

in high school.  I knew I hadn't gained a true reverence for those

who served our country in battle.

            The work which took me to Washington allowed minimal time to

site-see, but my brother told me I absolutely could not miss the

Vietnam Memorial.  Late at night, during the only free time I had,

when there were no crowds and the Lincoln, Jefferson and Washington

Memorials sparkled brightly thanks to thousands of lumens from

spotlights, I wandered along The Mall, looking for something equally

spectacular.

            When I first found the Vietnam Memorial, I felt disappointment.

Jutting out from the ground, I did not ascend steps to some high

point, but instead discovered a sidewalk sloping downward, as if into

some deep, dark crevasse.

            The deep, dark, black walls of The Wall did not reflect the light

from tiny spotlights lining the walkway.  Instead it swallowed light

like the struggle of war swallows the energy of a nation.  I found

myself looking up at names engraved in the black wall, reaching up to

put my fingers into the grooved letters, not unlike a Doubting Thomas

putting fingers into the risen Christ's hands and sides.

            I remembered.  I believed.  And I cried.

            In my subsequent trips to Washington, I have returned to The Wall

each time.  I continue to be humbled by the experience.

            Two years ago, my family walked The Mall on Father's Day.  There

were more people at the Vietnam Memorial than I had seen in all my

visits there.

            The tradition of gifts, flowers and letters left daily at the

Memorial reaches a peak on holidays.  I stooped and read the framed

letter from a young girl which was leaning against the base of The

Wall under her father's name.

            In 1970 she was yet unborn, but on June 15, 1997--Father's Day--she

turned 27years old.  Her letter described the things her father had

missed while he served, while he was a prisoner of war, and after his

death in captivity:  her birth, her first steps, her first day of

school, watching her compete in athletics, listening to her deliver

the valedictorian address in high school, graduating at the top of

her college class, giving her away in marriage, holding the grandson

named after him.

            She said she missed so much growing up without her father, but she

admired him, a decorated pilot who gave his life in service.

            "You would be proud of me for what I've done in my life, Dad," she

wrote.  "But you will never, never know how proud we are of you.  You

gave it all for us."